| 2008wagon |
We've got these neighbors and they are right beside us pretty close. They are not the friendliest people, and I think they hold a grudge because they wanted to buy this house when it was up for sale, but the person who owned it did not want them to have it, so we got it. Good for us, right?? Quite frankly, they are slobs. They have money, but they are lazy slobs and their place looks like sh** most of the time.
Anyway, we had a garage sale a few weeks ago. So in a round-about fashion they told my mother-in-law that they had some stuff they'd like to sell and that if we have room they'll just bring it over. So the mother-in-law asked us and we said fine.
So they brought their junk over, most of it wasn't even priced so we spent many trips over to their place to ask them what in the hell they wanted for this, how much for that etc. Most of it didn't sell. Bare in mind none of them made any effort to come help us at this garage sale, and then when it was over their crap sat here and they never came to get it. So my wife had to go over and ask them what the fu** to do with their stuff. My wife mentioned that we were going to take the stuff we didn't sell to Goodwill, and the neighbor woman says "you can just take our stuff too". That really pissed me off, but we took the stuff, and now it's gone, but....
This weekend they had a graduation party for their son, and didn't even once ask us if we'd like to come over or anything. What do you think of that?? After all we've done for the pricks, they didn't even attempt to be courteous and ask us over. Should I be pissed? Because I kind of am. |
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| dvl |
Get over it is the best advice. But don't forget it.
Keep their past behaviour in mind when it comes to the future. |
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| number 41 |
| +1. Living in the city sucks. They're full of stressed out humans. Just be glad they're not violent or drug dealers or fill in the blank. I spent 25 years in the same home in the Denver area and saw them all come and go. I outlasted them. It's the only way to look at it. |
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| ETC |
Well, now you know.
Doesn't sound like anyone you would want to spend time with anyway and they've set the standard for social interaction between you ... none.
My relationship with most of my neighbors is a wave or a nod and that suites me fine but, I'm not exactly a social butterfly.
Personally i don't think it much matters where you are, people are people and most of them are a bunch of a-holes. Common courtesy and decency are character traits not regional phenomena, I've lived a lot of places from cities to small towns and there are both kinds of people and everything in between no matter where you go. |
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| 2008wagon |
Don't get me wrong; I don't give a damn to actually go to their party, but the idea is that as we are all outside doing yard work and this and that, had it been ME having something going on at my house I'd have just been courteous enough to say "hey, you can stop over if you'd like" because that's how I am, knowing full well they probably wouldn't, but still I would offer. Plus we did a lot for them with that garage sale, with not so much as a "thank you" or any help from them.
I'm not a social butterfly either...not at all. I really don't like having neighbors, where I grew up there were NO neighbors within a mile radius, and that's what I grew up knowing.
But just what the hell has happened to common decency in this world? My dad would roll over in his grave if he's seeing how rude, dismissive, and un-courteous many people are these days. There is just simply no regard for anyone anymore.
I'm just gonna forget it like dvl said, but I'll remember it next time. |
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| neutron |
quote: Originally posted by dvl
Get over it is the best advice. But don't forget it.
Keep their past behaviour in mind when it comes to the future. | |
Sounds like the best advice to me.
Having lousy neighbors really sucks huh?
I just got all my neighbor situations ironed out for the first time in 10 years. |
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| 07OregonOutback |
I would've put all their crap back on their lawn in a pile, set it on fire and done a little dance around it. :9:
The most you can take away from this situation is knowing that people like that are going to never enjoy life to its fullest because they are always only thinking of themselves, and that they will probably die alone. And that I'm not kidding about. Nursing a grudge will never make it better. Let it go and the next time they try use you for something like that, Tell them to start their own yard sale. |
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| rockhopjohn |
Not to sound like a stereotyper, but when I lived in FL, the behavior you described is what I came to expect from the snowbirds that moved down there (from Ohio, and the rest of the NE and upper midwest). That being said, I knew, and met many nice people from the NE and upper midwest, but many of them (that moved to FL) were douchebags; a much larger proportion of the population than anywhere else I have ever lived. They had this philosophy that everyone was out to get you, so rather than be on the defense, you should go on the offense. They seemed to have no sense of propriety.
So, as others have said, just use this as a lesson. Don't waste you time on them in the future. My tack would be to be courteous and polite, but if they ever ask for anything again, just say "sorry, I don't think I can do that." Its tempting, but try not to sink to their level. |
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| bheinz57 |
You were nice enough to try and sell their crap, then take the leftovers to people who could use them.
I consider that enough of your time and energy given to be a nice neighbor. From now on forget about even looking their way. Life goes on.
Brian |
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| BuzzBuzz |
Look at it as a blessing.
You don't like them all that much, so not being invited to their son's party saves you from spending more time with them.
BTW, number 41 - I live in NYC and don't have that kind of problem. I think it's a more suburban issue. In the city, you usually have plenty of neighbors to choose from. Chances are, you find a bunch of nice ones. |
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| rockhopjohn |
| I look at neighbors the same way I look at co-workers. The likelihood of either one being someone I actually want to spend time with is quite low, since often times they are people you have very little in common with and you association with them is based solely on a set of random events that put you in close proximity with one another. So I am kind of like ETC, a wave, or Hello is about the extent of my association, and the people I hang out with are usually people I meet through clubs I am involved with or other social activities. |
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