Well, it's done. They wanted to charge me $728 for parts, $1328 for labor, minus $30 "Subaru parts discount", minus $80 "non-Subaru labor discount" (wonder what that means ?), plus sales tax (including on the labor).
The parts charge seems reasonable given what's been posted here (for OEM full-price). The labor is way high - they said it was 8hrs at $155/hour (which doesn't even quite compute). I pushed back and said "book" was 4.8-5.1 (based on what people have said here and at the other forum). Woman said she couldn't do anything, but I could keep loaner and we could try to work it out with manager; I was like "no, I want my car now". So she went and "talked to manager" and came back and said 6hrs labor was the best they could do. So I took it, paid $1326 out of pocket with my $500 goodwill coupon (which I got awhile back for bitching about sticky dashboard).
So I still kinda got screwed. This is a pretty expensive area, is the only justification. But I should've had it towed to an independent garage, like you guys said, and just bought the parts with the $500 coupon.
P.S. Flywheel they installed was 12310AA36A; is that SMFW or DMFW ?