Thanks for these helpful posts I've learnt heaps about the seals and differential with progress. The axle stubs are good, relatively new, the seals supplied by Subaru were individually packaged with the correct part number. So I went ahead and changed the seal again tonight to find after a test drive there is a very small drip of oil on the LHS again but is better than before. I've learnt that a seal remover tool is worthwhile and that parts store seal drivers are not suitable as they don't go over the lips of the Subaru seal. Also that it's a surmountable challenge to do this work with the car on jack stands, the H6 exhaust pipes and LCA in place. It is possible to remove the axle easily after removing just the axle nut, brake caliper, two big strut bolts (mark the camber position) and ABS sensor. The knuckle then folds out nicely. Both LHS and RHS seals have ID 35mm, OD 50mm at 9mm deep on the mating surface but are appropriately directional with small ribs on the inner circumference, I didn't realise the reason the part numbers were different left and right was they are directional until reading the replies here.
I think I have two problems, the first being that the bore of the diff retainer where the seal snugs into has a scratch (just noticeable by feel with an un-gloved fingertip) likely from somebody in the past - prolly me

Is the scratch fixable? I suspect not, sanding or polishing might only make things worse with a more uneven gap and metal dust getting everywhere but have no experience there. I see there is a similar post
here.
The second is that not having the special seal driver tool described in the FSM, it's dimensions or experience of this work aside vicarious YouTube vids I fashioned an amateur seal driver from a bottle cap but the walls of the cap weren't wide enough. So I pushed the first seal in a bit too deep due to the driver following it into the bore also the seal didn't seem go in exactly square as a fingernail depth check felt that one side was in fractionally further. The second time today was better although just out. Approximate measurements require the driver to have ID of 46mm to go around the seal front lips (which require a minimum clearance of 4mm depth) with an OD of say 53mm to ensure the seal ends up flush with the housing // next time.